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1 And Jesus being full of the Holy Ghost returned from Jordan, and was led by the Spirit into the wilderness,

2 Being forty days tempted of the devil. And in those days he did eat nothing: and when they were ended, he afterward hungered.

3 And the devil said unto him, If thou be the Son of God, command this stone that it be made bread.

4 And Jesus answered him, saying, It is written, That man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word of God.

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Family – Teens, Drinking & Purim

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Giving your teens helpful, safe guidelines.

Purim is right around the corner and it is one of our most joyous holidays. Along with all the revelry comes drinking and often unsafe behavior ensues. Some parents are at a loss how to talk to their teens about drinking. But we need to find the way to do so, not only on Purim, but all year round.

According to the NIAAA (The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism), teen drinking has been steadily increasing in recent years and alcohol is the most widely used substance of abuse among teens in America. There are many negative consequences to this trend. Drinking impairs judgment, causing teens to make poor decisions making them more susceptible to physical or sexual attacks. Injuries and death can result from alcohol poisoning and drunken driving incidents. Our brains develop well into our 20’s, alcohol can hinder brain development, causing learning and cognitive issues. According the NIAAA, people who start drinking before the age of 15 are four times more likely to meet the criteria for alcohol dependence at some point in their lives.

According to Rabbi Abraham Twerski, there is no mitzvah on Purim to drink irresponsibly. Rabbi Twerski has been alerting the community of the increasing problem of alcohol abuse and marijuana smoking among Jewish adolescents. Due to the gravity of the problem he entreats parents to avoid encouraging intoxication.

Rabbi Twerski says that “many people drink to excess because of the mistaken notion that there is a mitzvah to get drunk on Purim. Rabbi Shneur Zalman in his Shulchan Aruch (529) says, “It is impossible to serve God either in levity or drunkenness.” One of the final authorities on halacha, the Chafetz Chaim in Mishna Berura (695) states clearly that the proper thing to do is not to drink to intoxication, but rather to drink just a bit more than is customary (which would be a glass or two of wine), and go to sleep. This is the proper way to fulfil “not distinguishing between ‘cursed be Haman’ and ‘blessed be Mordechai.’ There is certainly no justification for drinking anything but wine. Aruch Hashulchan (695) condemns drinking spirits (liquor) in very sharp terms.”

Now that we are aware of the issues, what is a parent to do? Here are four simple ways to talk to your teens about drinking and other unsafe behaviors on Purim and throughout the year:

1. Don’t talk just, role model:

Sometimes it’s best if we don’t talk. Children do as we do, they do not do what we say. That means that lectures usually fall on deaf ears. Kids learn best by example. If we want our kids to have a healthy attitude about drinking, then they need us to model a healthy attitude towards drinking. Rabbi Twerski advocates that parents should set a model on Purim for their children and not drink to excess.

According to the NIAAA, parents can do the following:

  • Use alcohol moderately.
  • Don’t communicate to your child that alcohol is a good way to handle problems. For example, don’t come home from work and say, “I had a rotten day. I need a drink.”
  • Let your child see that you have other, healthier ways to cope with stress, such as exercise; listening to music; or talking things over with your spouse, or friend.
  • Don’t tell your kids stories about your own drinking in a way that conveys the message that alcohol use is funny or glamorous. (Understand that the media and peers portray alcohol in a glamorous ways.)
  • Never drink and drive or ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking.

2. Agree to Disagree:

Teens have a hard time listening to their parents. Many times parents will give their child advice and are annoyed when their child does not listen. It is even more frustrating when their child’s friend or mentor gives the same advice and their child listens readily, even if it was the same exact advice.

Our teens can hear us if we can deliver the message in a kind and diplomatic way. We need to let our children know our values in a way that does not demean them.

Jim Fay of Love and Logic encourages parents to agree to disagree. When a child says something that goes against our values, rules, or our better judgment, like “Drinking is no big deal. I can handle it!” we can say:

“I am glad you told me your thoughts and feelings about drinking. I am glad you feel like you can handle it. But I am concerned that drinking is illegal under 21 years of age. And I don’t agree that ‘drinking is no big deal.’”

In this way, our true message, “drinking is illegal under 21 and it is a big deal” is couched by respectful language, so that our teens can truly hear it. It is a kind and gentle way to help our teens understand our values and rules.

3. Talk about yourself and take little opportunities to talk:

Many times our conversations with our teens end up in anger. Our teens can push our buttons. Why? Because they need to test their independence and they need to push us away in order to do that. In a normal bid to grow to be healthy adults, teens need to reject what parents say so that they can define and refine their sense of self. Their egos are fragile and they are overly sensitive as they navigate this tough time in their life.

It is difficult for parents to watch their teens grow up, make their own decisions (sometimes not very smart decisions) and struggle for their independence. In their frustration, parents often use language that rankles teens, putting them in a position where they need to defend themselves and their decisions. Parent will say:

You better not do anything stupid when it comes to drinking! You need to pick a better group of friends!

To avoid placing our teens in a corner where there only recourse is to fight back, we want to talk about ourselves using “I” messages:

“I don’t like to read about kids drinking themselves sick.” “I get upset when kids use drinking to feel cool, I wish they could find other things to do that would help them feel good about themselves.”

We also don’t want to lecture. There is nothing a teen hates more than when parent gets on a soap box. Instead it is better if we take little opportunities to talk when things are calm, when we are reading the newspaper, watching TV, or when we witness another person engaging in unsafe behaviors:

When reading the newspaper: “Here is an article on the effects of drinking on your mind, what do you think about what it says?”

On TV: “Those kids are making some bad decisions about drinking and drugs.

What do you think is making him do that? What would be a better way to handle that?”

Witnessing a person’s bad behavior: “Smoking is a hard habit to break! I am glad I never got started!

It is at those times that we can also ask our teens:

“What do your friends say about smoking, drugs, drinking?”

“What plans do you and your friends have in place if you are put into a difficult situation with drinking?”

4. Be your teens safety net:

Kids need to know that if they find themselves in a sticky situation they have a way out. It’s important to tell your teens that if they are ever in trouble they can call you at any time of the day or night. Reassure them that you will not be angry just happy that they called you when they needed you.

5. Invite them to come up with some rules for themselves:

Teens need to learn to think for themselves. If they come up with rules and regulation for their own behavior they are more likely to stick with them. We want to use language that is encouraging and affirms our belief that they can make good decisions. We can ask them the following questions:

“You know the challenges of drinking and drugs. What rules should be in place for teens like you?”

“How can parents help kids make good decisions? What do you need from us?”

“What guidelines do you think you need to help keep yourself safe?”

Before Purim and any other social event where there might be drinking make sure to go over the rules that you have put in place with your teens. Rabbi Abraham Twerski encourages close supervisions of teens on Purim. Have your teen tell you where they are going and who they will be with. Make sure that they have a cell phone and remind them that they can call you at anytime if they are in a bind or if they feel at all uncomfortable. Reiterate the dangers of drinking and driving and that they may never get into a car with someone who is not sober.

Teens need us to be supportive and loving as they move through these years towards adulthood. Talking to them in respectful ways about tough issues and having rules in place can help.

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Adina Soclof, MS. CCC-SLP, is the Director of Parent Outreach for A+ Solutions, facilitating “How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk” workshops as well as workshops based on “Siblings Without Rivalry.” Adina also runs ParentingSimply.com and is available for speaking engagements. You can reach her and check out her website at www.parentingsimply.com.

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Netanyahu’s speech left me in tears.

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This speech left me in tears. Netanyahu is a wonderful speaker. It’s just a shame that the Prime Minister of Israel had to come over to edify, uplift and encourage our own people and remind us where we came from. Beautifully done sir. (And wait until you hear the last 5 minutes. *Moses)

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Pray for Russia

Wow. I heard a lady from Russia being interviewed this morning about the future of Russia since one of their activists was shot in his back and killed. Her answer moved me. She told the reporter, “Things are always hard for Russia, we are used to it.” It was sad to hear the tone of her voice when she said it.

Do you feel that way about your life? Do you feel as though things are always hard for you? Have you acquired tough skin because of it? Sometimes when you see a person with tough-skin, it can mean that they have a broken heart as well. Some people are good at hiding it. At least they think so.

Let’s pray for people “humans” all around the world that the enemy of our souls is trying to gather for himself. We have to remember that the enemy is not people, it’s a very evil spirit and his brothers. This is why Jesus told us to pray for ‘our’ enemies. He was telling us that it’s not the person but the spirit of evil using them.

That spirit of intimidation may think that it has people backed in a corner but I know a Man….His name is Jesus, and He can fight innumerous men with one blow. The enemies of God will feel His wrath. So let’s have compassion on others like us. They may be of various races, colors, and cultures, they are still human. Prayer changes things, prayer works. Let’s exercise compassion. Compassion always works. Compassion is love and love is none other than Jesus.

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I pray that your day is a good one and remember that the enemy is out there to steal your joy. Don’t give it to him.

Philippians 4:8

8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

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